Sometimes being a parent is the hardest thing ever

by BigMamaCass on June 18, 2013

in Mommy Drama,Monkey,Ranting



Almost every day, I am hollering at Monk because he wakes up his brother from sleeping.  Most times he does it on purpose because he wants to play.  Sometimes it’s accidental.  But I feel like I yell about it more than most things.

Today, after waking his brother from his morning nap, in a moment of stupidity, I told him, “If you wake up your brother again, you will go to your room for the rest of the day!”

Hearing our parents when we open our mouths is an eye opening and annoying symptom of parenthood.

And then nap time was upon us again and I quietly closed the baby’s door and said what I say to Monk every time, “Be very quiet, your brother is sleeping.”

Only my memory of an elephant child says, “And if I wake him, I have to stay my room for the rest of the day, right?”


“Yes.  That is correct.  Now go take your quiet time and I will come and get you when Rocky wakes up.”  and off he ran, quietly shutting his bedroom door behind him.

Tank is always telling me that I need to follow through more and stick to my guns.  Even when my guns open up and say something ridiculous.

I’m sure you know how this story will go.

An hour later, he comes into my office and says that he is done with quiet time and now he wants a snack and to play with his cars.  But I want him to take quiet time, which I have newly instituted, while his brother takes his second nap so that I can get some quiet time to myself.  So I quietly tell him that he needs to go back to his room and that he is only halfway done.  And that the rules are the same each day.

This pisses him off.

So he loudly says, “OHHH MANNNN!” and stomps back to his room.

And then….


As loud as a person can slam a bedroom door.

He slams it.

And then begins to scream.

Which of course sets off an immediate chain reaction of the baby waking up and starting to scream.  And my brain starts to boil over.

So I go tend the baby, get his diaper changed, yada yada, and still fuming I stomp my way back to Monkey’s room.

“Seriously [Monkey]?!?! Now you DO get to stay in your room all day!”  SLAM goes the door.

Fantastic parenting moment.

Of course now he screams and cries and wails, “MOMMMMYYYYYYYY!!!! NOOOOOOO!!!!! MOMMMMMYYYYYY!!!!!” and my heart breaks into a million tiny little pieces.  It’s physically painful.

My inner crazy lady monologue has a field day.

How do parents do this?

Why am I being such a pussy?

It’s not like I beat him and took away all his toys.

Why won’t he stop crying?

Jesus christ he is loud.

The neighbors are probably calling the cops.

I’m going to prison for locking my child in his…

“Mom?” He is standing in the entry way staring at me.  Completely tear free. “Can I come out now?”

“No, you need to learn your lesson.  You woke up your brother on purpose.  You need to stay in your room until bed time.”

“BWAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!!!!!!!!”  and he runs back to his room and SLAMS the door again.



Oscar goes to?

What am I going to tell the cops when they show up?

Maybe I should just go and get him.

I’m sure he learned his…

“Mom?”  There he is again.  Not a tear to be seen.  “Am I allowed to go potty?”

“Yes, Monkey.  Then get back in your room please.”


He didn’t even go into the potty.

I’m the worst disciplinarian ever.

And he knows it.

“Mom? Where’s my iPad?”

“I don’t know bud.  But you need to go to your room.  Without your iPad.”

“But I’m done.”

“No, Monk.  You are not done.  You stay in there for the rest of the day.  Do not come out again.  You are being punished.”


I have to stand my ground all night.  He has to learn there are consequences.

I bet he never wakes his brother again. 

This is going to work!

“Mom? Do you want to play wii with me?”


“BWAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!” And he takes off.  But this time I follow him and close the door.  A NON slam if you will.

And as I am walking back to the living room SLAM!


Just ignore him. 

He is just trying to rattle you.

I just know this will work!!

And then strangely he doesn’t bother me for a while.  I check on the monitor and he is playing with his toys, watching his VBS movie and having a grand time.

He comes out and I feed him dinner and he happily goes back into his room.

Shit.  He is playing me.

This isn’t working.

“Mommmm??  I LOVE playing in my room all day!” and happily runs back to his room.

Well shit.








{ 12 comments… read them below or add one }

Twitter ID: JackieCross
June 19, 2013 at 7:10 pm

Good for you for sticking to your guns! I know that it’s really important to follow through with what you say you’re going to do… and there are many times that I don’t. It’s bad… I really need to get better at it too.
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BigMamaCass June 20, 2013 at 9:28 pm

Thanks. Since he has been AWESOME!


Twitter ID: NoliesPlace
June 24, 2013 at 10:01 pm

Sucks when we have to be the bad guy. I once made my oldest eat dinner in his room. Backfired when he told me it was so much fun and he wants to do it more often.
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BigMamaCass October 16, 2013 at 8:28 pm

Kids are genius!


Twitter ID: camilleta
June 26, 2013 at 5:58 pm

Wow, sounds like a day in my house. Sometimes I just wanna rip my hair out. I recently figured out that not allowing TV all day until nap time, then turning it on, keeps my 4 year old quiet and lets the baby sleep. Usually.
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BigMamaCass October 16, 2013 at 8:28 pm

That might be a good plan!


Julie @Momspective
Twitter ID: Momspective
September 10, 2013 at 12:36 pm

Ugh, I just shuddered. I’m so glad my kids are been good lately, I’ve totally been where you are. I have Xanax because I seriously can’t handle it sometimes (I’m also bipolar so there’s that). I wanted to stop by and tell you thanks for your comment on my blog. That meant a lot to me.
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BigMamaCass October 16, 2013 at 8:29 pm

You do. :)


Twitter ID: mistressauri
September 14, 2013 at 9:05 pm

Oh Sass… If I could only tell you how many of these moments I have on a daily basis. Right now the two little ‘wanns’ are being punished for lying and going to a friend’s house after being told they couldn’t. Seems like a silly thing to get so pissed off about but you’re right… gotta stick to your guns once in a while. It’s exhausting being a parent. Period. There’s no perfect recipe either. Even though some people will tell you xanax and zoloft make it better. It’s just hard. Very rewarding. Very heartbreaking. Very hard. You’re a great mom=) The kids are lucky to have you.


BigMamaCass October 16, 2013 at 8:29 pm



ukash April 18, 2014 at 3:13 am

Sucks when we have to be the bad guy. I once made my oldest eat dinner in his room. Backfired when he told me it was so much fun and he wants to do it more often.


BigMamaCass April 30, 2014 at 9:39 pm



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